Free Ballers (FBA)

Free Ballers (FBA)

12 steps

1. We admitted we were powerless over free balling — that our comfort had become compulsive and unmanageable.

2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to balanced comfort.

3. Made a decision to turn our will and our desire for comfort over to the care of God as we understood Him.

4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of our physical, emotional, and psychological comforts.

5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our comfort-seeking habits.

6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character, including compulsive comfort-seeking.

7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings, including inappropriate reliance on free balling.

8. Made a list of all persons we had made uncomfortable by our behaviors, and became willing to make amends to them all.

9. Made direct amends wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were drawn back into compulsive comfort, promptly admitted it.

11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, praying for knowledge of His will for us and the comfort to carry that out.

12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other Free Ballers, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

13th Step Safeguard

“We remember that intimacy, vulnerability, and physical comfort can be personal matters. We respect others' boundaries, avoid over-sharing, and refrain from making others uncomfortable in or outside the fellowship.”

12 Traditions

1. Our common welfare should come first; personal comfort depends on FBA unity.

2. For our group purpose, there is but one ultimate authority—a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience.

3. The only requirement for FBA membership is a desire to find balance in personal comfort.

4. Each group should be autonomous except in matters affecting other groups or FBA as a whole.

5. Each group has but one primary purpose—to carry its message to those still seeking balance.

6. An FBA group ought never endorse, finance, or lend the FBA name to any related facility or outside enterprise.

7. Every FBA group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.

8. FBA should remain forever non-professional, but our service centers may employ special workers.

9. FBA, as such, ought never be organized; but we may create service boards directly responsible to those they serve.

10. FBA has no opinion on outside issues; hence the FBA name ought never be drawn into public controversy.

11. Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion.

12. Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities.

12 Promises

1. We will know true comfort without obsession.

2. We will learn the difference between healthy self-care and compulsive behaviors.

3. We will feel comfortable in our own skin, regardless of our clothing choices.

4. We will develop self-awareness around personal boundaries and public decency.

5. We will gain freedom from social anxiety tied to personal comfort habits.

6. We will no longer feel the need to justify our choices at the expense of others.

7. We will find peace in situations that previously made us self-conscious.

8. We will become more sensitive to the comfort of those around us.

9. We will release shame and secrecy around our past habits.

10. We will carry a message of balanced living to others who struggle.

11. We will live with dignity, humor, and humility.

12. We will enjoy freedom—both physically and spiritually.

Slogans

• "Comfort isn’t king — balance is."

• "Loose doesn’t mean lost."

• "Freedom with responsibility."

• "Feel good, live better."

• "Comfort with conscience."

• "We aren’t defined by our underwear."

Acronyms

F.R.E.E.

• Find

• Recovery

• Empowerment

• Everywhere

C.O.M.F.O.R.T.

• Choosing

• Optimal

• Mindfulness

• For

• Our

• Recovery

Today

🔎 Breakdown Summary

The core of this program isn’t about underwear — it’s about how small comfort-seeking behaviors can sometimes turn into larger compulsions, avoidance patterns, or even emotional escapes. This program helps people restore balance, dignity, humor, and spiritual alignment.