Gaslighters (GA): 1ST
- pancakemarathon
- Jul 2
- 3 min read
Certainly. Below is a 12-Step Recovery Program for Gaslighting, written in the spirit and structure of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), adapted for those who have engaged in or been affected by gaslighting — whether as a gaslighter, a survivor, or both. This program is rooted in self-awareness, accountability, and spiritual growth.
Steps
“Restoring clarity, one truth at a time.”
We admitted we were powerless over the need to distort, deny, or control — that our lives had become unmanageable.
Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to honest clarity.
Made a decision to turn our will and our need to manipulate over to the care of Truth as we understood it.
Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves — not others.
Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our distortions and justifications.
Were entirely ready to have our obsession with controlling perception removed.
Humbly asked a Higher Power to remove our tendency to gaslight, deflect, or project.
Made a list of all persons we had misled or manipulated, and became willing to make amends to them all.
Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it — without manipulation or spin.
Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with the truth, as we understood it, praying only for honesty and clarity.
Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other gaslighters and survivors, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
13 step
Traditions
“Where the light of truth replaces the fog of confusion.”
Our common welfare should come first; personal healing depends upon group clarity and unity.
For our group purpose, there is but one ultimate authority—a Higher Power of truth and integrity—as it may express itself in our group conscience. Our leaders are trusted servants; they do not control perception.
The only requirement for GA membership is a desire to stop gaslighting or being gaslit.
Each group should be autonomous except in matters affecting other groups or GA as a whole.
Each group has but one primary purpose—to carry the message of recovery from gaslighting to those who still suffer in confusion and denial.
A GA group ought never endorse, finance, or lend the GA name to any outside enterprise, lest our purpose be diverted from truth.
Every GA group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions—especially those that come with hidden strings or distorted motives.
Gaslighters Anonymous should remain forever non-professional, but our service centers may employ those with clarity and compassion.
GA, as such, ought never be organized; but we may create service structures directly responsible to those they serve.
GA has no opinion on outside issues; hence the GA name ought never be drawn into public controversy or used as a weapon in any personal narrative.
Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal and group anonymity at the level of press, media, and social platforms.
Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding us to place principles above personalities and truth above tactics.
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